Some Bullies Are Just the Shy Type, New Research Shows
When you think of people suffering from social anxiety, you probably characterize them as shy, inhibitive and submissive. However, new research from psychologists Todd Kashdan and Patrick McKnight at George Mason University suggests that there is a subset of socially anxious people who act out in aggressive, risky ways—and that their behavior patterns are often misunderstood.
In the new study, “The Darker Side of Social Anxiety: When Aggressive Impulsivity Prevails Over Shy Inhibition,” published in Current Directions in Psychological Science, Kashdan and McKnight found evidence that a subset of adults diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder were prone to behaviors such as violence, substance abuse, unprotected sex and other risk-prone actions. These actions caused positive experiences in the short-term, yet detracted from their quality of life in the longer-term.
“We often miss the underlying problems of people around us. Parents and teachers might think their kid is a bully, acts out and is a behavior problem because they have a conduct disorder or antisocial tendencies,” says Kashdan. “However, sometimes when we dive into the motive for their actions, we will find that they show extreme social anxiety and extreme fears of being judged. If social anxiety was the reason for their behavior, this would suggest an entirely different intervention.”
Kashdan and McKnight suggest that looking at the underlying cause of extreme behavior can help us understand the way people interact within society.
“In the adult world, the same can be said for managers, co-workers, romantic partners and friends. It is easy to misunderstand why people are behaving the way we do and far too often we assume that the aggressive, impulsive behaviors are the problem. What we are finding is that for a large minority of people, social anxiety underlies the problem,” says Kashdan.
The researchers suggest that further studies of this subset group can help psychologists better understand and treat the behaviors. “Recent laboratory experiments suggest that people can be trained to enhance their self-control capacities and thus better inhibit impulsive urges and regulate emotions and attention,” says McKnight. “Essentially, training people to be more self-disciplined—whether in physical workout routines or finances or eating habits—improves willpower when their self-control is tested.”
For a full copy of the study, or to interview Kashdan or McKnight, contact Tara Laskowski, Office of Media and Public Relations, at 703-993-8815 or tlaskows@gmu.edu.
Remarkable — shareholdersunite.com Says:
March 18th, 2010 at 2:49 pm
[...] Shy bullies? [...]
Jay McGraw Says:
May 6th, 2010 at 11:21 am
I’d venture to say ‘shy bullies’ are the fractional minority. Most bullies have an inflated sense of self-esteem and have pretty good social skills, too. Over 80% of all bullying involves spectators; putting on a public display doesn’t seem to fit with the ‘shy’ bully model.
Anthony Says:
September 30th, 2010 at 7:53 pm
I believe that there are two opposing sides here. Growing up I new bullies who didn’t speak or get along with anyone. Maybe they were trying to fit in and they felt like that was the only way to do it. But, I also knew popular kids who were bullies as well. They had many friends and nothing to prove. They had a high sense of self esteem. It was like they picked on people to prove a point; as to say, “You will never be as good as me.”
Overcome Social Anxiety Says:
September 30th, 2010 at 7:59 pm
This is interesting though. I mean I’ve know bullies who didn’t speak to anyone. They were very aloof. Kinda like the whole trench coat mafia look. Social anxiety could have a lot to do with it. I knew some bullies who would try to start a fight with you just for looking there way. I think theses action are there way to form some kind of safety bubble around them, to keep people at bay. It doesn’t do to much for personal growth and the action comes from irrational thinking.
how to not be shy Says:
October 7th, 2010 at 6:00 pm
Shy bullies? Well that’s not one you hear everyday. I’ll have to look for the full report.
Find A Tutor Says:
January 2nd, 2011 at 2:57 am
Interesting post about social anxiety. Not sure I ever would have thought. Thanks.
social anxiety help Says:
January 28th, 2011 at 4:58 am
That was an interesting article and I believe that the study has revealed something that people without social anxiety didn’t know before. It’s a common stereotype that people with social anxiety are shy and therefore stay away from trouble. Usually that is correct, however there are times when people with social phobia burst out. I believe that this happens because their self-esteem gets so low, that they need to do something to feel better. And this usually results in doing something that is not accepted by the general public. Still I believe that this is just an unconscious call for help and attention.